There's a way.

Around 7 years ago, a young American guy, who was an exchange student and stayed at his university's dormitory, told me an interesting story. While being in the U.S., he didn't think he was popular among girls. However, as soon as he moved into Japan, he was treated as one of Hollywood movie stars! Many girls asked him whether he had been seeing someone or not. He couldn't help but started behaving as if he were somebody.

"A girl asked me to kiss the other day, and I didn't know what to do."
One day, he said.
"Do you love her or not?" I asked him.
"I don't know, I like her as a friend."
"Well, then, you should have said so."
"But she doesn't seem to give up on me."
"That's not the point. If you want to be with her, just say it. If you are looking for other girls, for example, a girl who can be Ms. Right for you, don't you think you can't go in the wrong way with that girl?"

He was a determined and very good-looking guy, so I understood there were many girls around him. I liked him, of course, so I gave him a piece of advice.
If we are desperate for seeing a bosom friend or soul mates or destined love, we need to be ready for them. Of course, we don't have to be strict, but I believe we can't see the right one as long as we don't pay attention to it. I must say, before seeing the right one, we need to know who we are and what we want in our lives... Sounds weird? Well, that's the way I've been thinking.